What is your Truth?

What is it? Where do you find it? What is your truth these days? With so much being put in front of us to digest in a myriad of ways how do you know what’s yours? Which truths are you being fed that are real? Which are not? How do you discern between your truth and ‘theirs’? Can there be more than one truth? How do we allow our truth to coexist peacefully, lovingly with another’s truth? Is that even possible? It’s noisy out there right now. I mean it’s always been noisy, but it’s frickin’ loud right now.

Stay inside. No, it’s okay to go out. Wear a mask, no they don’t help. It’s not a big deal. You’re going to die. Extremes and all of the grey in-between are being rubbed against all our senses like sandpaper on an hourly basis. It’s disorientating. Let’s find our footing. Let’s settle into our own truth AND let’s allow other’s truth that differs from ours exist with love and acceptance. In order to do that we need to first step back and take a look at the bigger picture. We are in the process of living into a more feminine way of being. We have been living in a very masculine space. I’m not just talking body parts here, either. It’s the obvious of the #metoo movement and equal pay for equal rights. It's the Elizabeth Warrens, Katie Porters and the AOCs. Its all of that and something much more subtle. Those are all important pieces but I’m talking about a deeper, feminine way of being. A masculine way of being is linear, has boundaries, is concerned about time and deadlines and facts and science and proof and numbers. Masculine being is exclusive, hierarchical and separative. Masculine is about the external and projection. And none of these are bad or wrong. Okay...maybe we want to avoid projection, but the rest of them aren't bad or wrong. A feminine way of being is fluid, engages with its surroundings, is concerned about space and coherence and feelings and art and experience and ideas. Feminine being is inclusive, equal and communal. Feminine is about the internal and the assimilation. None of these are bad or wrong, either.

Masculine is not better or worse than the feminine, or vice versa, it's just different. It's when we live at one extreme or the other that our experience is unbalanced. The integration of the masculine WITH the feminine is where our true power lies. But, first, the pendulum needs to swing back in the opposite direction before we find balance.

This is where we find ourselves.

We are feeling the contractions of being birthed into a feminine way of living. I have felt for a while now that we were ‘pregnant’ so to speak. Feeling and witnessing the changes happening in us and around us. This pandemic feels like the first of many coming contractions. We will be delivered safely but the process is painful, unfamiliar, tiring and long. That doesn’t mean that we eliminate, disregard or shun the masculine. It has its place. What it does mean is that we can no longer find our truth, our North Star, using the masculine way of being as our primary decision maker.

Masculine truth is found outside of ourself. Feminine truth is sourced within our Diving Knowing. No it doesn’t mean that we throw things like science and numbers out the window. It means we approach the science with a feminine filter, a feminine mind. And just by doing this still doesn’t mean that we will all come to the same conclusion but it does mean we have a greater ability to be inclusive of many different truths.

The masculine says there is only one truth, the feminine allows for many truths.

That if we decide wearing a mask when we leave the house supports our autonomous truth about what’s happening we can do that without judging or shaming those whose truths don’t align with ours. If we decide that not wearing a mask supports our personal truth then we can smile and connect with those that are wearing a mask. Knowing that they are living out their own truth.

Our opposing truths can coexist.

The feminine way of being isn’t easy. It forces us to move within. We can no longer project our fear onto others. We must look inside and tend to our own fears. Fears that are really about grief, abandonment, anger and loss. We can no longer seek truth outside of ourselves, we must move within to find our own truth.

We can not wait for someone to tell us what to do, how to think or how to act but we must claim our own sovereign autonomy and trust that we know what right action is and trust that we have access to Divine Knowing. We can no longer operate in an us vs. them mentality. We need to find ways to move into co-creative endeavors with those around us. Seek out win-win situations in all that we do. Only then will the contractions stop and we will finally be held in the unconditional love of one another.